Spotlight On Bully.

Unfortunately, teasing is often a part of growing up — almost every child experiences it. I did and still do Even from people very close to me. But it isn’t always as innocuous as it seems. Words can cause pain, much pain greater than even a Knife. Teasing becomes bullying when it becomes unnecessarily repetitive, or rather intended to hurt a person. this could be done verbally, psychological, or physically.

Electronic bullying has become a significant problem in the past decade. The  addiction to these devices afford bullies unrestricted, anytime access to their prey, and harassment are often carried out anonymously.

How Bullying Starts

Like explained earlier, it starts slowly, repetitive teasing until it’s actually intended to harm the weaker side.

 Bullying can begin as early as preschool and intensify during transitional stages, such as starting school in 1st grade or going into middle school. 

Victims of bullying are often shy and tend to be physically weaker than their peers. They may also have low self-esteem and poor social skills, which makes it hard for them to stand up for themselves. 

However, bullies are considered to have a higher self-esteem, social status and low risk of falling into depression, which is still absolutely no reason to become a bully.

Effects of Bullying

If a kid is a victim of bully, Grades drop because, instead of listening to the teacher, they are wondering what they did wrong and whether anyone will sit with them at lunch. If bullying persists, it would result in the avoidance of school. Problems with low self-esteem and depression can last into adulthood and cause an imbalance in their personal and social lives. 

Bullies on the other side are not totally left out. Even into adulthood; they are likely to have difficulty forming positive relationships.

To Assist,

First, give your child space to talk.

Adult Intervention:

Adults need to intervene to help children resolve bullying issues. Try to find an intermediary: even if the bullying occurs outside of school, a teacher, counselor, coach, or after-school program director may be able to help mediate a productive discussion. 

At school:

Many schools (sometimes as part of a statewide effort) have programs specially designed to raise awareness of bullying behaviour and to help parents and teachers deal effectively with it. Check with your local school district to see if it has such a program. 

Seek a Professional help for more solutions!.

Yet, it’s in playing with peers, without adult monitoring, that children develop the skills that make them well-liked by age-mates and learn how to solve social problems.

Spread the word and help stop teenage bully!


2 Replies to “Spotlight On Bully.”

  1. wanda bits

    Another great piece you have here! This reminds me of how my close friend and I were bullied in primary school, i.e. being told to carry others heavy bags, being picked on for being one of the shy ones, etc. We laugh about it now but going through that was not fun at all. I think one of the reasons children do not speak up is because they fear it could get worse if their parents address the issue.
    All we can do as parents is hope and pray that we are able to recognise the signs that come from children being bullied at school even when they choose to keep quiet.

    • LawsonA

      Ah, yes you’re right.
      I’m a victim of some serious level of bullying. I just graduated Highschool, the final 3 years was hell. I moved to a new state, had to enrol in a new school and adapt to the environment which was quite strange to me.

      Anyway, I overcame it and channeled the negative energy to advocate for something good. I wish everyone else has the strength.

      Thanks for reading.

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